The moment when a couple first sees each other on their wedding day is one of the most emotional and memorable moments. For many, this moment is saved for the walk down the aisle, but in recent years, a new trend has emerged: the "first look." This intimate moment, where the couple sees each other privately before the ceremony, has both passionate supporters and critics. If you’re considering whether to do a first look, here’s a helpful list of pros and cons to help you make the decision.
Pros of a First Look:
More Time for Photos - One of the most significant advantages of a first look is that it gives the couple more time for wedding portraits. Since you’ll already be dressed and ready, your photographer can capture intimate moments between the two of you before the ceremony starts. This can allow for more creative shots and less stress later in the day.
Relieves Nerves - Weddings can be overwhelming, and for many people, the walk down the aisle can trigger a lot of nerves. A first look allows for a private moment with your partner, which can help calm those jitters and create a more relaxed atmosphere. You get to see your loved one in a more private setting, reducing the pressure of a grand public moment.
More Time to Enjoy Your Reception - By having a first look, you may be able to wrap up all your pre-determined photos before the ceremony. This would allow you to spend more time with your guests during the cocktail hour. Instead of having a big photo session between the ceremony and reception, you can move directly into your party, food, and dancing, enjoying the day by being fully present.
Emotional and Intimate Moment - A first look can be incredibly emotional and intimate. Without the pressure of an entire audience, you can react more naturally to the sight of your partner in their wedding attire. It also can provide a perfect setting to exchange your vows in private. This can make for stunning, candid photos that showcase raw emotion, and the intimacy of this moment is something you’ll remember forever.
Logistical Ease - Depending on your wedding timeline, doing a first look can streamline your day. You’ll be able to complete bridal party and family photos before the ceremony, so you can head straight to your reception without delays. For couples with tight schedules or evening ceremonies, this can make a big difference.
Cons of a First Look:
Losing the “Aisle Moment” - One of the most iconic and romantic moments of a wedding is when the couple sees each other for the first time at the ceremony. For some, the first look takes away from that magical experience. The walk down the aisle is a culmination of anticipation, and for couples who dream of this moment, having a private first look may not feel as impactful.
It’s Too Modern - A first look is often considered a modern wedding tradition, and not everyone is on board with it. Some couples may feel that the tradition of waiting until the ceremony is important for their cultural or spiritual beliefs. If family members or guests have strong opinions on wedding traditions, a first look might not feel like the right choice.
More Potential for Emotional Overload A first look is a big emotional moment in itself, and for some couples, it can overshadow the intensity of the ceremony. After sharing such a private, emotional moment, some may feel that the ceremony itself lacks the same punch. If you’re hoping to experience a dramatic aisle reveal, a first look might take the edge off that emotion.
Limited Surprise If you’re someone who values the surprise of seeing your partner in their wedding attire for the first time, a first look can spoil that element of the day. For many couples, the moment when their partner walks down the aisle is the first time they get to see each other all dressed up, and this is a key part of the wedding experience.
Scheduling Challenges While a first look can be efficient in terms of photos, it may also add more to the schedule. Depending on your wedding timeline, it can mean getting ready earlier in the day, especially for the photographer and wedding party. If you have a large bridal party or complicated logistics, a first look can make things more hectic, especially if you're looking for a more relaxed pace.
Should You Do a First Look?
Ultimately, the decision to do a first look comes down to personal preference and how you envision your wedding day. If you’re looking for more time to relax, less stress about photos, and an intimate moment with your partner, a first look could be a great option. On the other hand, if you prioritize tradition and the emotional buildup of seeing your partner for the first time as you walk down the aisle, then skipping the first look might be the right choice for you.
There’s no right or wrong answer, just what feels best for you and your partner. No matter what you choose, your wedding day will be special, and the moment you see each other—whether it’s in private or in front of everyone—will be one you cherish forever.
Rebecca Wowk
Lead Planner and Event Designer, Eliza Jane Events
Planning and Coordination: Eliza Jane Events
Venue: The Seneca Ridge
DJ / Live Band: The DJ Duo (Don & Moon)
Florist: Plenty of Posies
Bakery: Caramel Bakery
Caterer: Madeline’s Catering
Hair & Make Up: Heidi Crimmins
Rentals: She Rents Vintage
Photographer: Liv T Photography